Relationships

We Irritate the Crap Out of Each Other, But…

We’re still together after 23 years, and I wouldn’t swap him for anyone

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My partner and I don’t have a conventional relationship. We don’t have a great deal in common. We don’t even sleep in the same room because, you know, his snoring and me sweltering hot. We have a couple of grown-up kids. We’ll stay together forever because any alternative is impossible. And we’re still not married.

And, yes, we do irritate each other in countless ways. We’re constantly sniping, but we rarely fight big time.

All the relationship advice articles would tell us that we are incompatible. That real love means never showing irritation or rolling your eyes. Communicating honestly and openly is the key to a happy life together. But, nah, we prefer doing it our way.

Things he does that irritate the shit out of me:

• Makes a mess wherever he goes. For example, he shakes the salt high above his plate so it goes all over the table. He spills sugar on the counters and doesn’t notice. He leaves trails of crumbs and coffee slops.
• Chooses a movie or drama series for us to watch, then falls asleep ten minutes in.